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Soulmate Delusionsand the Relationship Map

Love as a journey of mistakes and forgiveness. An evening with Andrew Barnes exploring the soulmate ideal, the patterns that drain love, and the possibility of sharing power without losing yourself.

Seminar: 6 November 2026
Venue: BINAP, Bulgaria
Taught in English with Bulgarian interpretation.
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For adults 18+Come on your own or with a partner

The Relationship Map

Andrew Barnes’ Relationship Map in EnglishOpen the map at full size ↗

Recognise the patterns that drain love and the qualities that generate it.

© 2014 Andrew Barnes

Soulmate delusions

When ‘the one’becomes a struggle

The promise is seductive: somewhere there is a person who will understand you completely, fulfil your longings and make love feel effortless. Then differences appear. Expectations collide. The person who once seemed to complete you can become the person you most want to change.

Andrew begins with the stories we carry about love, then brings them into the everyday reality of relating. Through the Relationship Map, he explores how attraction and idealisation can give way to power struggles, and how greater maturity can open the possibility of love-generating power sharing. The map offers a language for recognising your own patterns and the qualities you can develop.

The soulmate ideal

Love as a journey of mistakes and forgiveness

What happens when we expect a relationship to prove that we have found the perfect person? Andrew examines the expectations we bring to love and the three phases described in his seminar.

  • The honeymoon phase and idealising a new partner
  • The love-draining phase and the emergence of power struggles
  • The love-generating phase and the development of power sharing

A powerful attraction is a beginning. How we meet what follows also shapes the relationship.

Explore the three relationship phases

In the honeymoon phase, we can see a new partner through the qualities we most long for. We may make exaggerated promises, overlook differences and imagine that this person will finally make us feel complete.

When expectations are disappointed, familiar ways of seeking love or protecting ourselves can become more visible. Andrew explores the movement into a love-draining power struggle and the possibility of developing a love-generating relationship through greater maturity.

The seminar invites a different conversation about love: what can we learn from our mistakes, how do we take responsibility for our behaviour, and what makes forgiveness and growth possible?

Reading the Relationship Map

Recognise the patterns that drain love

Andrew explains the four quadrants, the behaviours in the rectangular boxes, and the arrows connecting them. Feminine and masculine describe qualities and behaviours that can be present in anyone, regardless of gender.

  • Immature feminine and masculine patterns, including neediness and unavailability
  • Covert and overt behaviours, from seeking validation and guilt-tripping to withholding and control
  • How providing and acquiring, or claiming and acquiescing, can become a power struggle

Use the map to notice your own responses. Different patterns can appear in different areas of the same relationship.

Look more closely at the map

The map places mature feminine and mature masculine qualities above immature feminine and immature masculine patterns. Andrew explains the behaviours alongside each quadrant and how they can appear in everyday interactions.

Examples include seeking reassurance or validation, fearing abandonment or rejection, giving in order to be loved, feeling obliged to provide, withdrawing, blaming, and trying to control an outcome. The seminar explores how these patterns can interact and drain love.

The feminine and masculine terms do not stand for women and men. Each person can express qualities from all four quadrants. A pattern that appears around money may differ from the one that appears around communication or sexuality.

Love-generating power sharing

Develop the qualities your relationships need

The mature part of the map brings empathy and acceptance into relationship with boundaries and communication. Andrew explores how these qualities can support reciprocity, responsibility and a more generous way of relating.

  • Mature feminine qualities such as receptivity, empathy, honesty and vulnerability
  • Mature masculine qualities such as clear communication, responsibility and boundaries
  • Mapping a difficulty and identifying mature behaviours to practise

Power sharing asks us to develop both the capacity to stay open and the capacity to be clear.

Explore how to apply the map

Andrew explains the map’s diagonal pathways: developing empathy and acceptance alongside immature masculine patterns, and boundaries and communication alongside immature feminine patterns. The contrasting mature qualities offer a direction for development.

His presentation identifies eight areas to explore: communication, emotional awareness, finances, health issues, lifestyle choices, outside influences, relationship expectations and sexuality.

The mapping sequence starts with one relationship and one area of difficulty. Identify the immature behaviours involved, then describe the mature feminine and masculine behaviours that could form a solution action plan. This gives reflection a specific focus that you can return to after the seminar.

Facilitator

Meet the creator of the Relationship Map

Portrait of Andrew Barnes

Andrew Barnes

MHSc (Sexual Health)

Andrew Barnes began developing the Relationship Map in 2014. In this seminar, he brings the model to life through his teaching on love, sexuality, power dynamics and personal growth.

Read more about Andrew

Andrew has facilitated retreats and taught about relationships, sexuality and embodied awareness since 1998, working in around 50 countries. His approach combines clear teaching with warmth, humour and respect for each person’s pace. It is grounded in informed consent, trauma-informed awareness and the understanding that meaningful change develops through collaboration, not force.

  • Teaching since 1998
  • Work in around 50 countries
  • Creator of Tantric Body De-armouring
Visit Andrew’s About page

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What you can take with you

A clearer way to understand your relationships

Recognise the expectation beneath the conflict

Notice how the soulmate ideal and the wish to feel completed by another person can influence what you expect from love.

Name a recurring pattern

Use the map’s four quadrants and examples of behaviour to look more closely at a difficulty in a particular area of your relationship.

Find a direction for growth

Identify mature qualities to practise, bringing empathy and acceptance together with clearer boundaries and communication.

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Date and time

19:00–22:00 (local venue time)
6 November 202619:00–22:00

Soulmate Delusions and the Relationship Map

Soulmate beliefs and the three relationship phases, followed by the Relationship Map, its mature and immature patterns, and practical ways to explore power sharing. There is time for questions and reflection.

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Practical information

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Venue and arrival

BINAP Sofia, 63 Pirin str.

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Before you come

No previous knowledge of the Relationship Map is needed. You can come on your own or with a partner. Bring a relationship or recurring situation to mind that you would like to understand more clearly. Bring a notebook and pen, water, and comfortable clothing for a seated evening seminar.

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The seminar format

Listen, question and relate the map to your own life

A three-hour talk and visual presentation with time for questions and reflection. Come on your own or with a partner, whether you are currently in a relationship or not.

01Understand the mapAndrew explains the quadrants, behaviours and connections between them.

The seminar includes the Relationship Map and guidance on reading it. No previous experience with the model is needed.

02Personal reflectionBring a relationship or recurring situation you want to understand.

You can consider the examples privately, make notes and decide which questions you wish to ask. Personal sharing is optional.

Bring water and a notebook if you would like to take notes.

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6 November 2026
BINAP, Sofia, Bulgaria

EUR 40.00Early bird: €40 until 20 October 2026. Standard price afterwards: €50.Taught in English with Bulgarian interpretation.Private registration and secure checkout

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Seminar
Soulmate Delusions and the Relationship Map
Dates
6 November 2026
Venue
BINAP, Sofia, Bulgaria
Participant
One person
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EUR 40.00

Included

  • Seminar and visual presentation
  • Time for questions and discussion
  • Guidance on reading and applying the Relationship Map

Early bird: €40 until 20 October 2026. Standard price afterwards: €50.

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