Notice the detail
Notice when you are preparing a reply instead of listening.
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Connection · With Lukas WeberListening
Listening
with room.
A practical introduction to listening with more attention, making clearer requests and finding room for different perspectives. Six lessons invite you to try small changes in conversations that matter to you.
Room for a discovery.
- 6 lessons
- A clear progression
- 12 months’ access
- Time to return
- 12–16 minutes
- For each exploration
- At your own pace
- Return and repeat
A practical introductionBegin with curiosity.
Begin with curiosity.
Discover your own way.
You do not need previous experience. Each lesson offers a clear idea, an exploration and a question to take into your day. Here is what you will begin to discover.
Discover more options
Ask open questions without steering the answer.
Use it in daily life
Make a clear request while leaving room for another person’s choice.
Inside the courseSix lessons.
Six lessons.
Discoveries that grow.
Each lesson brings together an explanation, a practical exploration and a question to reflect on. Work through them in order or return to a familiar practice.
01ConnectionArrive in the conversation
Listening begins before you find a response. Notice what you are carrying into the conversation: a busy mind, an expectation or an unfinished thought. You do not have to remove it. Acknowledging it can help you return to the person in front of you.
- A clear explanation
- An everyday exploration
The explorationBefore a conversation, put down one distraction and allow a moment to arrive. During the first minute, notice when you begin preparing your reply. Gently return to the speaker’s words.
A question to take with youWhat changed when you gave yourself time to arrive?
Explore this sample lesson02ConnectionHear without filling the gaps
A familiar story can tempt us to assume we know the ending. Notice the difference between what someone says and what you add. Your interpretation may be useful, but it is still an interpretation.
- A clear explanation
- An everyday exploration
The explorationAfter listening to a short story, reflect back one thing you heard. Ask whether you understood, and leave space for a correction.
A question to take with youWhere did you notice an assumption?
03ConnectionAsk a question with room
An open question invites another person’s experience. It does not need to solve anything. A simple question is often easier to answer than several questions folded into one.
- A clear explanation
- An everyday exploration
The explorationAsk, ‘What matters most to you about this?’ Then wait. Resist adding a suggested answer or a second question immediately.
A question to take with youHow did it feel to leave the answer open?
04ConnectionMake your request clear
A request becomes easier to understand when it names a specific action. It also leaves room for a different response. Clarity and choice can exist together.
- A clear explanation
- An everyday exploration
The explorationTurn a broad wish into one concrete request. Say what you would appreciate, when, and ask whether it works for the other person.
A question to take with youWhat helped you ask without assuming the answer?
05ConnectionStay curious when you disagree
Understanding a perspective does not mean agreeing with it. You can hold your own view and still ask what matters to someone else. If the conversation becomes too much, taking a break is an option.
- A clear explanation
- An everyday exploration
The explorationChoose a low-stakes difference of opinion. Ask about the experience behind the other person’s view before explaining your own.
A question to take with youDid you discover anything you had not expected?
06ConnectionKeep the conversation open
You do not need to finish every conversation with a perfect resolution. Sometimes a useful ending is knowing what has been understood and what needs more time.
- A clear explanation
- An everyday exploration
The explorationAt the end of a conversation, name one thing you appreciated and one thing you would like to return to. Agree on a next step only if it is helpful to both of you.
A question to take with youWhich listening habit would you like to keep exploring?
Take a look insideFrom understanding
From understanding
to experience.
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Begin with the reading and exploration below. Give yourself time to pause, return and make the practice your own.
Lesson 1 · 12 min
Arrive in the conversation
Listening begins before you find a response. Notice what you are carrying into the conversation: a busy mind, an expectation or an unfinished thought. You do not have to remove it. Acknowledging it can help you return to the person in front of you.
Try it for yourself
Before a conversation, put down one distraction and allow a moment to arrive. During the first minute, notice when you begin preparing your reply. Gently return to the speaker’s words.
A moment to reflect
What changed when you gave yourself time to arrive?
My notes
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A moment to check in
Explore what stayed with you. Single-choice, multiple-choice and true/false questions are marked automatically, with immediate results. Your teacher does not need to mark them by hand.
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A question for Lukas
Keep a question and its reply beside the lesson that prompted it. Message translation can be set up in your chosen languages; German is shown here as one example.
Lukas WeberExample conversation
It is fine to keep this simple. Choose one thing you noticed, and begin there. You don’t need a complete explanation.
Message translation · Optional paid extraMake it part of the weekSimple to set up.
Simple to set up.
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Find a comfortable place and a few unhurried minutes. You can read on your phone, tablet or computer. A notebook can help you carry an idea into the day.
Choose a rhythm that fits your life. You have twelve months to return to the lessons. Your learning space keeps the course and your progress together.
Ask about the courseYour guide
Meet Lukas.
A good conversation doesn’t always begin with finding the right words. Sometimes it begins with giving another person a little more room.
I like practical experiments that are small enough to try. Notice one habit, explore an alternative, and see what changes. There is room for uncertainty and for finding a way of speaking that sounds like you.
More about LukasThe Online Education core includes one initial course with up to six supplied lessons and one educator profile. Additional courses, educators and the labelled lesson tools are separately scoped additional features.
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