The principles behind the practice

Ethics & Professional Standards

Work involving sexuality, intimacy and altered states asks for more than good intentions. It asks for clear roles, informed choice, accountable practice and boundaries that remain visible when an experience becomes powerful.

These commitments shape Andrew’s retreats, events, consultations, mentoring and practitioner education. They make clear what people can expect, where the work’s scope ends and how concerns can be raised.

A visible foundation

Responsibility should be clear before anyone says yes.

Ethics are not decorative words placed around intimate work. They are the practical structure that protects choice, names responsibility and gives power somewhere to answer.

This page does not promise that difficult moments or harm can never occur. It makes the standard visible: how participation is approached, where professional limits sit and what should happen when something needs to be questioned or addressed.

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Choice remains yours

A yes is specific and changeable. You may ask questions, adapt your participation, pause, decline or stop.

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Roles remain clear

The facilitator’s responsibility is to guide the process, maintain boundaries and never seek personal gratification through it.

03

Scope is named honestly

The purpose, possibilities and limits of an offering are made clear, including when different or specialist support is needed.

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Accountability has a pathway

Questions and concerns can be raised, and an independent route remains available when the matter should sit outside Andrew’s team.

Ethics in practice

What these standards mean in the room.

Open each principle for a concise account of the expectation behind it. The full published documents remain available below for anyone who needs the detailed wording and procedures.

01Choice, autonomy and informed consentConsent is an active, continuing conversation rather than a single permission given at registration.

Before participation, people need enough balanced information to decide freely. During an experience, their authority over their own involvement remains intact.

  • The purpose, format, likely experiences, relevant limitations and available alternatives are explained as clearly as the context allows.
  • You may begin, continue, adapt, pause, decline or stop an activity without pressure, punishment or the need to defend your decision.
  • A previous yes never removes your right to change your mind, and uncertainty is a reason to slow down rather than push through.
02Professional role clarity and boundariesIntimate subject matter does not make professional roles less important. It makes clarity more important.

The facilitator is responsible for holding the structure of the work, attending to power differences and keeping personal needs out of the participant’s or group’s process.

  • Andrew’s guiding position is direct: “I’m here to facilitate, not participate.”
  • Touch, demonstrations, personal disclosure, contact outside the offering and any overlapping relationship require explicit boundaries.
  • Professional power remains relevant before, during and after an event or working relationship, including when a participant feels close, grateful or emotionally open.
03Trauma-informed practice and honest scopeTrauma-informed care shapes how an experience is offered. It is not a claim to treat or resolve complex trauma.

Pace, choice, communication and the possibility of overwhelm are considered throughout. The scope of each retreat, event, consultation or training is described without presenting personal development as specialist treatment.

  • Retreats and educational events are not presented as psychotherapy, medical care or treatment for complex trauma.
  • Suitability, relevant contraindications and the limits of available support should be visible before participation.
  • When a person’s needs fall outside the offering, responsible practice includes recommending appropriately qualified support.
04Confidentiality and privacyPersonal information deserves restraint: collect what is needed, explain why, limit access and do not repurpose it casually.

Confidentiality expectations are established for professional teams and participants. Privacy also includes how registration information, personal disclosures, images and communications are handled.

  • People are not required to disclose private material merely to prove engagement or readiness.
  • Operational information is not treated as automatic permission for marketing; promotional communication requires a separate, clear choice.
  • Any legal or practical limits to confidentiality should be stated rather than hidden behind an absolute promise.
05Accountability, reflection and continued learningProfessional integrity is not a claim of perfection. It is the willingness to examine decisions, receive feedback and respond when harm or uncertainty appears.

Responsibility includes ongoing education, reflective practice and seeking consultation or supervision when the work calls for it. Difficult moments should be examined rather than explained away.

  • Mistakes and ruptures require honest attention, proportionate action and a willingness to repair what can responsibly be repaired.
  • Concerns about another event professional should be addressed through the established ethical and grievance pathways.
  • Andrew’s completed third-party accountability process remains publicly disclosed below as part of this commitment to transparency.
06Raising a concernYou do not need to decide whether something is a complaint, grievance or ethical breach before asking for it to be heard.

A practical event matter may begin with Andrew’s team. A formal grievance, a concern involving Andrew or a matter requiring greater independence can be taken to Safe Mediation.

  • Questions, discomfort and concerns can be raised without waiting until every detail is certain.
  • The published complaints and grievance procedure distinguishes operational complaints from formal ethical grievances.
  • The procedure includes a commitment against retaliation for raising a concern in good faith.

Accountability in public

Transparency belongs inside the standard.

Andrew undertook a third-party accountability process with Safe Mediation in response to allegations of sexual misconduct. The process formally concluded in April 2023.

This information remains public because professional integrity is not built by presenting a flawless image. It requires a willingness to be answerable, to keep difficult history visible and to preserve a route outside one’s own organisation for anyone who has concerns.

Detailed standards and procedures

Read the full published documents.

The concise principles above are a guide, not a replacement for the detailed documents. Read each one for its full standards, scope and procedures.

01

Code of Ethics & Standards

The principles and required conduct applying to Andrew and the people formally working in event roles.

Read the Code
02

Complaints & Grievance Procedures

How event-related complaints and formal allegations of ethical breaches are distinguished and addressed.

Read the Procedure
03

Trauma-Informed Statement: Retreats & Events

The trauma-informed approach, realistic scope of support and limits of retreats and events.

Read the Statement
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Trauma-Informed Statement: Practitioner Training

The scope of Tantric Body De-armouring Practitioner Training in relation to trauma and future professional practice.

Read the Statement
05

Accountability Process

The public record of Andrew’s third-party accountability process with Safe Mediation, completed in April 2023.

Read the Record
06

Personal Data Protection

How personal information is collected, used, protected and shared, together with your data-protection rights.

Read the Statement

When something does not feel right

You do not need to be certain before you speak.

You may ask a question, name a discomfort or raise a concern without first deciding whether it is a complaint, grievance or breach of the Code.

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Contact Andrew’s team

For an event, registration or practical concern, you can begin with a direct conversation and ask what process will follow.

Contact Andrew
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Use the independent pathway

For a formal grievance, a concern involving Andrew or a matter you do not want handled within his team, contact Safe Mediation directly.

Contact Safe Mediation